Day 27 of 30: My happy looks different than your happy.

I am so freaking excited that I only have two days left of this month, and that the May, Myself, and I Self-Love Experiment will come to a close. I mean, I’m still gonna’ love myself and dig deep and do healing work because that’s who I am. But setting something as charged as “self-love” […]

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Day 23 of 30: on being human

Step 8 of the 12-step program I’m in is to make a list of all people I’ve harmed and become willing to make amends to them all. My list was 200 items long, and I felt deeply ashamed to share it with another person. Alas, I did. One by one, I went through and explained […]

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DAY FOUR: It’s none of my business what you think of me.

I lived many years in the illusion that I could control whether you liked me. I wanted everyone to like me or want me or want to be me. My sense of worth came from if I thought I’d impressed you. If a post had a lot of likes or if I made someone laugh, I’d feel as though I’d earned my keep that day. As if my life isn’t worth living if I’m not making some substantial difference in millions of people’s lives.

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